While it is true that we have a multitude of problems with our mind, the root of most of our real problems is in our heart. Communication is often not the answer. “Talking it out” will do us no good if there is no change of heart. What is in our heart directly affects our thinking and our priorities. I’m sure you’ve heard it said that out of an abundance of the heart man speaks. It is also said in Proverbs that as a man believes in his heart so is he. Scripture does not say that divorce is from a lack of communication. Rather, Scripture says that divorce is the result of a hard and stony heart. (See Matt. 19:8, Mk. 10:5.) Often the reason for poor communication is a heart that cannot or will not give in. It is because of an unwillingness to listen or to defer to the other person’s point of view. So the real problem is hardness of the heart. The good news is that God can change the heart if we are willing to humble ourselves and receive His grace.